THIS IS WHAT WE CALLED
"UNITY IN DIVERSITY"
In our country, a different religions marriage can not be legalized by the state law, it might can't be legalized in anyhow. Furthermore, there's still a racism issue between the indigenous decent and the Chinese. But in the end, love will conquered it all.
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HOLY MATRIMONY
(St. Peter's Cathedral) This is the pics of us at St. Peter's Cathedral, the place where we make a vow. With the song Ave Maria, we walk through the aisle. It's the greatest romantic moments of our life. We decided to use the classical wedding themes for our holy matrimony. Because according to the Catholic, the marriage can only be occurred for once in a lifetime and to us the classic themes represent the eternity.
The pictures: We're walking down the aisle then we make a vow and giving rings. After that, my hub's open the veil. And we do the first kiss, then asked for the marital blessing to our parents and the Abbe blessed us, signed the civil registration and last, we do the prayer to the Virgin Mary. And here we are, Mr. and Mrs. Gregorius Arland with Abbe Deddy, our parents, eyang Sompil, our marital witnesses (my hub's uncle and aunt) and with our brides maid and best man.
The pictures: We're walking down the aisle then we make a vow and giving rings. After that, my hub's open the veil. And we do the first kiss, then asked for the marital blessing to our parents and the Abbe blessed us, signed the civil registration and last, we do the prayer to the Virgin Mary. And here we are, Mr. and Mrs. Gregorius Arland with Abbe Deddy, our parents, eyang Sompil, our marital witnesses (my hub's uncle and aunt) and with our brides maid and best man.
Me, my hubby, our parents, brides maid and best man wardrobe: Me / Make-Up: Geinevere Salon / Photographer: Prass Prasetyo, Prima Wibawa
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PENGAJIAN
(My House)
My whole family and relatives gathered to pray and read the verses of Holy Quran that related to the family life and household. And also to make the 'holy' water that will be used for our bridal bath.
My wardrobe: Me / No Make-up / Photographer: Christ Mandey Messakh
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SIRAMAN
(My House)
The siraman (bridal bath), indicates that we clean-up our body and soul before getting married, this is the opening sequence of all the Javanese traditional wedding ceremonials. Each of us were showered by nine peoples with a warm 'holy' water from the seven springs and with seven kinds of flowers in it. Regarding to the time efficiency, the siraman of my hubby takes the same place with me, in order it should be held at his house.
The pictures: At first my parents asked my grandmother to give them permission and blessing to pass me to married and then I asked my parents for their permission and blessing for my marriage, the shower venue, the water for my hub's shower to pass from my dad to our family representatives to give it to my hub's family representatives, my mum applying powder to my face, my dad applying shampoo to my hair, the water containers and scoop for our bridal shower, my shower: my dad, mum, then followed by seven others families give me the bridal shower, mum pouring me a very cold water in a jug and then my mum crack it as the sign that I'm no longer single. After that, my mum and dad cuts a few strands of my hair (it will be mixed with a few strands of my hub's hair and then our hair will be buried at the yard, under a shady tree and showered by the 'holy' water that represent our love live will be growing in each and everyday), the 5 different color towels, after the shower, my parents must carry me from the shower venue to my bedroom, and then my parents brings and feeding me my lunch, after that my mum go out side to welcoming my hub's family (my hub's mum give my mum a bunch of banana - i don't know exactly to represent what...) then my family representatives give my hub's family representatives the water for his shower, and then my hub's doing the same shower process as I do. Here's our bridal bath souvenir (goody bag - hand towel and umbrella). The last process that is my parents buried our hair in the front yard.
Me, my mum, my hub's mum kebaya, my dad's metalic blue surjan: Me / Other wardrobe: Ibu Sompil / Make-Up: Ibu Sompil / Photographer: Christ Mandey Messakh
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MIDODARENI
(My House)
Midodareni was held in night before the "akad", is the part of the Javanese pre-wed tradition (actually it is the proposal night). It's when my family welcoming my hubby's family, that his family proposed me to be his wife. In this event all both families are having the first dinner together, except my hubby, he just allowed to drink glass of freshwater (we don't know exactly the reasons why) and then my family will give him a take-away dinner package after this ceremonial has finished.
The pictures: I love the decoration and its color, my hub's sister and other four single ladies of his family bring the seserahan (wedding gift) and also kembar mayang that represent the twin guardian angels that will accompanying me on my room in the whole night. The MC open the ceremony. My hub's family representatives convey the objective of their presence then my family representatives welcoming him, after that my dad asked me if I'm willing to welcoming my hub's family or not. Soon after I say yes, my parents leave me all alone in my room while they start to asked my hub's solemness to proposed me and give him some marital advice. My hub's was thankful for their acceptance, then my mum give him a glass of fresh water. While the other family and relatives had their dinner, my hub's can only be waiting patiently. After their finished the dinner, my parents give my hub's a take-away dinner package to eat everywhere but my house. After my hub's and his family leaving my house, we start another ceremonial, cracking a jar full of pennies, that represent share the fortunes. My aunties and mum's BFF are snatching the money and after that we pose together :) the last pic was me and tante Mumu (Ibu Sompil's assistant).
Me, my mum, my hub's mum kebaya, my dad's metalic blue surjan: Me / Other wardrobe: Ibu Sompil / Make-Up: Ibu Sompil / Photographer: Christ Mandey Messakh
Me, my hubby, our sisters, our parents wardrobe: Me / Other wardrobe: Ibu Sompil / Make-Up: Ibu Sompil / Photographer: Christ Mandey Messakh
The pictures: I love the decoration and its color, my hub's sister and other four single ladies of his family bring the seserahan (wedding gift) and also kembar mayang that represent the twin guardian angels that will accompanying me on my room in the whole night. The MC open the ceremony. My hub's family representatives convey the objective of their presence then my family representatives welcoming him, after that my dad asked me if I'm willing to welcoming my hub's family or not. Soon after I say yes, my parents leave me all alone in my room while they start to asked my hub's solemness to proposed me and give him some marital advice. My hub's was thankful for their acceptance, then my mum give him a glass of fresh water. While the other family and relatives had their dinner, my hub's can only be waiting patiently. After their finished the dinner, my parents give my hub's a take-away dinner package to eat everywhere but my house. After my hub's and his family leaving my house, we start another ceremonial, cracking a jar full of pennies, that represent share the fortunes. My aunties and mum's BFF are snatching the money and after that we pose together :) the last pic was me and tante Mumu (Ibu Sompil's assistant).
Me, my mum, my hub's mum kebaya, my dad's metalic blue surjan: Me / Other wardrobe: Ibu Sompil / Make-Up: Ibu Sompil / Photographer: Christ Mandey Messakh
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AKAD
(The Kartipah Guest and Wedding House)
The akad is the holy matrimony in Moslem's version. Is the ceremonial when my dad passes me to my hubby to be. In several Javanese traditions, the brides is still in her room during the akad, otherwise, in other Indonesian culture, the brides are allowed to sit besides the Groom. The akad followed by another ceremonials.
The pictures: My hub's family representatives requested permission from my family to enter the akad's venue, as my family welcoming his family the Qory and Qory'ah start to read some verses of Holy Qur'an that related to the marital life. The penghulu (headman) start the holy matrimony process, with my hub's, my dad and the witnesses sat on the same table while I'm still waiting inside the room with the pager ayu and pager bagus (brides maid and best man). My hub's and dad do the akad spell with a diamond rings and a sum of money as the dowry. I'm still waiting until their has finished the akad (when the witnesses say 'sah' - in other words that we've legally married) then my hub's signed some marital legalized papers. After that, the headman come inside and give me the dowry and the papers to signed. And that's it, we're legally pronounced as husband and wife.
The pictures: My hub's family representatives requested permission from my family to enter the akad's venue, as my family welcoming his family the Qory and Qory'ah start to read some verses of Holy Qur'an that related to the marital life. The penghulu (headman) start the holy matrimony process, with my hub's, my dad and the witnesses sat on the same table while I'm still waiting inside the room with the pager ayu and pager bagus (brides maid and best man). My hub's and dad do the akad spell with a diamond rings and a sum of money as the dowry. I'm still waiting until their has finished the akad (when the witnesses say 'sah' - in other words that we've legally married) then my hub's signed some marital legalized papers. After that, the headman come inside and give me the dowry and the papers to signed. And that's it, we're legally pronounced as husband and wife.
Me, my hubby, our parents, pager ayu wardrobe: Me / Other wardrobe: Ibu Sompil / Make-Up: Ibu Sompil / Photographer: Christ Mandey Messakh
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PANGGIH
(The Kartipah Guest and Wedding House)
Is the first time me and hubby are allowed to meet after the akad witnesses pronounced "Sah.." or in other words that we're legally married.
The pictures: I'm waiting inside with two ladies (must be married to my hub's companion) as my companion, while in outer side of the venue, my hub's, his companion and sister will enter the venue after my mum except their gift (represented with a bunch of golden bananas). After that, my mum asked me to come to the door to welcoming my hub's. Me and my hub's throwing seven betel leaves to each other, and then my hub's step an egg, beat it with his feet that directly I have to wash it - this activity represent my loyalty and treat (as a wife) to serve and take a good care of my hubby. Then my mum give us a glass of water that represent we're out of our parents custody and start a new life as husband and wife.
The pictures: I'm waiting inside with two ladies (must be married to my hub's companion) as my companion, while in outer side of the venue, my hub's, his companion and sister will enter the venue after my mum except their gift (represented with a bunch of golden bananas). After that, my mum asked me to come to the door to welcoming my hub's. Me and my hub's throwing seven betel leaves to each other, and then my hub's step an egg, beat it with his feet that directly I have to wash it - this activity represent my loyalty and treat (as a wife) to serve and take a good care of my hubby. Then my mum give us a glass of water that represent we're out of our parents custody and start a new life as husband and wife.
Me, my hubby, our sisters, our parents wardrobe: Me / Other wardrobe: Ibu Sompil / Make-Up: Ibu Sompil / Photographer: Christ Mandey Messakh
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SUNGKEMAN
(The Kartipah Guest and Wedding House)
This is the last time me and my hubby asked our parents and grannies to give us the marital blessing. The sungkeman ceremonial followed by "kacar-kucur".
Me, my hubby, our parents, our grannies wardrobe: Me / Other wardrobe: Ibu Sompil / Make-Up: Ibu Sompil / Photographer: Christ Mandey Messakh
This is a ceremonial that represent the marital life - indicates that a husband must give his wife the sustenance that the wife could share it with the family.
The pictures: My hub's give me a sum of money and then I pass it to my parents. After that, my hub's give me a bribery of seven kind dishes which is represent seven kind "life" flavors (sweet, sour, salty, bitter, plain, savory, and spicy) and a glass of water.
Me, my hubby, our parents wardrobe: Me / Other wardrobe: Ibu Sompil / Make-Up: Ibu Sompil / Photographer: Christ Mandey Messakh
Decoration by Teh Ine / Organized by Red Box
The pictures: We're asked for the marital blessing then my hub's help me to stand and here we are...
Me, my hubby, our parents, our grannies wardrobe: Me / Other wardrobe: Ibu Sompil / Make-Up: Ibu Sompil / Photographer: Christ Mandey Messakh
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KACAR-KUCUR
(The Kartipah Guest and Wedding House)
This is a ceremonial that represent the marital life - indicates that a husband must give his wife the sustenance that the wife could share it with the family.
The pictures: My hub's give me a sum of money and then I pass it to my parents. After that, my hub's give me a bribery of seven kind dishes which is represent seven kind "life" flavors (sweet, sour, salty, bitter, plain, savory, and spicy) and a glass of water.
Me, my hubby, our parents wardrobe: Me / Other wardrobe: Ibu Sompil / Make-Up: Ibu Sompil / Photographer: Christ Mandey Messakh
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THE RECEPTION
(The Kartipah Guest and Wedding House)
The pictures: This is the picture of us before we're entering the receptions venue. When the MC start to welcoming the guest and we're entering the venue then my dad give a speech that's where the party started. This is us with our parents. Some of our guest: the closest family, friends, the wedding committee, the event organizer and the photographers. And it's time to throw the bouquet and one of my BFF won it, is she the next bride? :) After all the guest leaving the venue, it's time for me and hub's dashing on the flash light and so I'm really exhausting, my mother in law give me a foot massage. Later, we're having a very late dinner at 11 pm.
Me, my hubby, our parents, pager ayu, pager bagus, my aunties, my mum's BFF (wedding comittee - the ladies that wear red kebaya) wardrobe: Me / Other wardrobe: Ibu Sompil / Make-Up: Ibu Sompil / Photographer: Christ Mandey Messakh
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SOME of THE DECORATION
(The Kartipah Guest and Wedding House)
Decoration by Teh Ine / Organized by Red Box
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HONEYMOON DAY
(Jogjakarta)
The pictures: Our honeymoon day - From Jogjakarta to my family ranch at Desa Tempuran, Dieng, Wonosobo.
Photographer: Rininta Harizbaya Muchtar
Photographer: Rininta Harizbaya Muchtar
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TOGETHER, FOREVER, ETERNALLY
